Listen, Rock-A-Holics…it's just not working out. Don't worry; I'm not talking about OUR relationship, which is just fine. I'm referring to the subject of today's Group Therapy.
Brian and his girlfriend are approaching the two-year mark, and he's just not feeling the love anymore. In fact, he's reached the point of being ready to break up with her! Unfortunately, her grandfather just died, and she's not taking the loss very well. Brian is trying to be there for his girlfriend, but the turmoil has definitely confirmed to Brian that he doesn't have feelings for her anymore. He feels like it would be insensitive for him to leave her during this rough time in her life, but he really wants out.
Sometimes, you have to put yourself first. Is this a tough situation? You bet it is. Unfortunately, you can't make choices about your life based on the events going on in someone else's…especially if your own happiness is tied to your relationship with that person, for good or for ill. It will suck, but my advice is to rip off the bandage and be done with it.
Maybe I'm the insensitive one, though, so let's hear it from you, good people! Should Brian get this breakup out of the way, or should he wait until her personal wounds have healed up a bit?
So over the years I have been lucky to have become buds with some talented musicians in the Seattle area…the music community here is an impressive one, and one of the best dudes I have ever met…and one talented guitarist/singer is Glenn Cannon from Windowpane. All the dudes in the band are awesome (what's up Tony, Mark, and Sean!)…and I have been lucky to jam with some of these guys in the past.
Windowpane are in the process of making a new record, and they need your help…they created a Kickstarter for it where you can buy the record in advance (in addition to other perks) and help fund the recording process. There is only 11 days left to back it…I have donated, so has BJ… and you can too right HERE!
Recently the guys in Windowpane were on my podcast…if you missed it, you can listen to the full podcast HERE.
While they were in studio they gave us a taste of their new record with 2 new songs…
Plus, while they were in studio…we had some fun with my GarageBand app and we "jammed" to Black Sabbath's "War Pigs":
They just made a documentary called "There Is No Such Thing As the Record Label Fairy", and it's FREE to watch! You can check out a live screening of the film on Thursday May 7th at Louie G's in Fife! Here is the film:
I got nothing today, sorry! One of those morning where I am hitting a wall…is it Friday yet?
Thanks to Toppy…and a video he shared on Facebook, my day improved drastically… if you need a pick me up…watch this!
As you know, I’m a big Star Trek fan, but I was disappointed to hear this story about Alice Eve, who played Dr. Carol Marcus in the J.J. Abrams-directed reboot sequel Into Darkness. It seems that Alice – who was a guest on our show while she was out promoting the movie -- launched some criticism at Bruce Jenner via an Instagram comment, saying:
“If you were a woman no one would have heard of you because women can’t compete in the decathlon. You wouldn’t be a hero. You would be a frustrated young athlete who wasn’t given a chance. “Until women are paid the same as men, then playing at being a ‘woman’ while retaining the benefits of being a man is unfair.”
I don’t know that much about decathlons, but I find it weird that she brought that up. There are some amazing female athletes out there, but I can’t recall seeing any fervor about their lack of inclusion in the decathlon. It just seems like she’s pulling an argument out of thin air, for the sake of targeting Bruce Jenner.
Not surprisingly, Alice Eve has pulled her comments down, and has started defending herself against a mountain of transphobia accusations. I love Star Trek, but I don’t love this ridiculous woman right now. Stick with acting, Alice.
Welcome to Group Therapy, fellow Rock-A-Holics! If this is your first time, don’t worry…we promise to be gentle.
Today’s patient-in-need is Brian, who has an interesting problem. He’s been dating his girlfriend for about four months, and they haven’t been intimate yet. He told her at the outset that it usually takes him a while to sleep with someone, and that was fine…but now she’s growing impatient, and has really been putting on the full-court press to get Brian into the bedroom. What she doesn’t know is that Brian is a 35-year-old virgin, and his girlfriend has no idea.
The virginity is a side-effect of Brian’s religious upbringing. Faith is no longer an obstacle, but he’s still holding on to the idea that he wants to save himself for someone special, and he is definitely speeding toward a crossroads in that regard.
I’m actually disappointed by the deception behind Brian keeping this secret, because this is exactly the kind of thing that people withhold because they know it’s a potential deal-breaker! There’s no moral high ground when it comes to lying to your partner. Brian says he’s worried that she’s going to freak out about the virginity, but I think he should be far more concerned with her reaction to the fact that he lied to her.
Yesterday I was doing some cleaning. Ok…I wasn’t really cleaning, I was looking for something, and the residual effect of looking for something led to me cleaning some of my mess up. While on the hunt for whatever it was that I was looking for…yes, I really can’t remember at this moment what I was trying to find...welcome to my world of fried brain cells (thank you Plattsburgh State University)…I came across some pictures. Of the pictures I found, this one takes the cake…
This pic rules mainly because of that glorious mullet. Man that was a great look. This pic also rules because of that old school (although at the time it was new school) Winnipeg Jets jersey!
This is a really fun film…it has a great story, as it touches on love…family relationships…and most importantly tackles a huge issue: what life would be like if Joel McHale was on a coke bender. Check out the trailer…
While Nick was in studio, he was sitting in front of a computer…before we went live on the air he was typing into that computer. As soon as he left I checked it out, and this is what he typed…
Hello again, Rock-A-Holics! It’s time to help out one of our own with some Group Therapy!
A big fan named Eric wrote in to show some love, and ask for assistance with a problem. After years of having shared finances in a single account, Eric recently discovered that his wife has been keeping a secret bank account. He’s not too happy about it, as you might guess. He says his first instinct was to blow up at his wife, and dig in deep to find out if she’s been keeping anything else from him over the years, but he’s decided to seek a more civilized path to enlightenment…from us.
We don’t have all the facts, of course, but I see two big possibilities: either the wife has chosen to deceive her husband for unpleasant reasons, or Eric isn’t financially responsible, and she has taken the necessary steps to maintain the day-to-day functions of their life without his interference.
If you have any advice, or some direct experience with this type of situation, we’d love to hear from you! Eric needs some feedback that he can take to the bank…
These drums are glorious. They are all that I am thinking about. It’s a sickness…hell when I walked into Guitar Center I told myself “Steve, do not look at drums…go straight to the drum head section…get your heads and some sticks and get the hell out”. I was one foot out of the drum section when I locked eyes on those bad boys! Love at first site…damn you Guitar Center!!
Speaking of drums… for those fellow drummers out there…my buddy Jesse Smith (he’s played in bands like Fall From Grace, Saqqara, and currently plays in the Infinity Project – an awesome Journey tribute band) just turned me on to some new cymbals by a company called Soultone Cymbals. Drummer friends – try these out, I absolutely love the cymbal I bought.
Today's blog comes from one of my mentors, Dan Sanders:
I’m going to start this with a standing O and three bravos for Robert Downey, Jr. Downey walked out on an interview with Krishnan Guru-Murthy, and I say, as the British might say, grand for him.
I have very little respect for what I call “past gropers,” interviewers who want to dig up bones. The actor Downey was furious when the line of questioning suddenly turned personal in a chat with Channel 4 in London to promote his new film Avengers: Age of Ultron.
I saw the video of the interview, and Downey was fine when the show started. As arranged, he would talk about his experiences on the new hit movie, which premiered in Britain on Tuesday, April 21. It should be noted that Downey’s son was arrested for cocaine possession in West Hollywood Sunday afternoon, April 12, and you could see he was getting very fidgety when interviewer Krishnan Guru-Murthy began asking about his long-conquered personal demons, prompting Downey to ask, “Are we promoting a movie? What are we doing?” The gravedigger Krishnan Guru-Murthy kept digging, and Downey walked out. I will say he handled it much more politely than I would have. I would have walked off but might have thrown my chair at him on the way out. There are just some issues you leave alone.
QUICK THOUGHT ONE: I have two Facebook accounts, one as Dan Sanders, the other as Dan Sanders from Rambling Harbor, and I’m thinking (operative word here is thinking) that second one will become my primary site for posting blogs and podcasts and staying in touch with those who want to be in touch with me. I have 495 friends on regular Facebook, and 111 have accepted my request to join Rambling Harbor. When I explain this in the podcast, it will make sense, I hope, and your thoughts will be welcome (and no, I will not save it for 3 hours into the podcast. This isn’t The Longest Most Meaningless Movie in the World, a real movie. You can look it up).
QUICK THOUGHT TWO: 87 days! As of April 23, it has been 87 days since NFL commissioner Roger “not as quick as a rabbit” Goodell said he would hand down a decision on the Patriots’ deflated balls, footballs, of course. As I said in a blog and podcast in February, the Watergate investigation took less time.
I’ll have more to say on all of this (if I can remember what it was), and as always there will be some musical notes on the shores of Rambling Harbor. Join me there.
Suicide Squad director David Ayers unveiled the first full look at Jared Leto as The Joker. Social media erupted and many fans are pissed with the look. Personally – I think it’s awesome. Just like how Heath Ledger’s Joker was nothing like how Jack Nicholson’s Joker looked…I love how this version of the Joker is completely different. It’s fresh, and once again p[roves that people HATE change.
Speaking of Twitter… Man my weekend was made when I saw that one of my favorite music sites, Blabbermouth, used an interview we did for a story they put out!
So I then go on their site, and find out that wasn’t the only time this weekend that they used one of our interviews from the STP-CAST as a source for a story!
Damn. That’s huge in my world... being flattered doesn’t even do it justice.
Finally… I want to give props to my bud John’s son Evan Sarthou. Evan is a goalie and plays in the WHL for the Tri Cities Americans...and was selected to be the goalie for the Under 18 (U18) USA Hockey team, and yesterday they won the gold medal…beating Finland, and he was named USA’s player of the game!
I have been lucky enough to play hockey with Evan in the summer from time to time, and he’s a great guy… I couldn’t be happier for him. Plus he is the next great thing to come out of Black Diamond…move over Sir Mix A Lot!
I also have to give props to Evan, as he was kind enough to hook me up with some of his old gear last summer... I still use his brand of sticks, and other gear too (skates, chest protecter,etc). So he not only contributed to a gold medal, but in a roundabout way contributed to a RHL Championship haha!