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BJ'S BLOG 01/02/13 "Cutting the Cord"

Today is our first day back from vacation and during the Luke Warm Topic, someone on show talked about a gift they received for Christmas that really set me off.

Vicky Barcelona commented on how her ex-boyfriend’s parents sent her a necklace that says “Family” on it and they said to her that she will always be a part of her family.

Can I say that we’ve become extremely stupid as a society?

When someone in your family ends a relationship, it should end for you too. It is not appropriate to try to keep that fire burning.  

When that happens, the family member that had to go through the break up gets placed in an awkward situation because their ex is still in their lives…all because a relative doesn’t want to cut the cord. What happens when they both start dating someone new and they have to be around each other?

 The bottom line is that by being friends with the people your family member used to date is going to cause unnecessary drama and it’s not worth causing problems within your family just to still hang out with these people. 


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01/02/2013 9:20AM
BJ'S BLOG 01/02/13 "Cutting the Cord"
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01/02/2013 3:18PM
Mom and Ex
Going through this myself. Mom's argument is that she came to love my ex like a daughter, and I got divorced not her. I understand where she's coming from, but how do you proceed with that? I essentially told her that's fine, but then that also means that you do whatever you want with her without me. I don't want to hear about her or be involved in any of it. It's put quite a strain on my marriage now because my wife really feels like she can't have a relationship with my mother because she'll always be second to my ex.
01/02/2013 3:22PM
I see your point but..
you can't tell me you would stop being friends with family of an ex.. It's not that family's fault your ex is an ex.
01/02/2013 3:29PM
ya things can be weird
My mother in law still loves my brother in laws ex wife, I can kinda understand that since she was around for so long that she misses her but the fact that she left him essentially because she wanted to sleep around made the rest of us pretty upset with my mother in law for saying she understands why she left and still wants to be in her life we all think that's about the most selfish reason you could leave someone because it's something she should have realized before she ever married him in the first place.
01/02/2013 4:01PM
I agree with you...sort of
I agree that ex's shouldn't be friends, unless there are kids involved! At the same time, you can be friendly with your ex's family (because your child is their relative), but they are not your family anymore. When I broke up with my ex, he was calling my family including my 15 yr old sister (at the time) to see if they wanted to hang out...pissed me off!
01/02/2013 7:13PM
Uncomfortable
My brother's ex-wife was the maid of honor for my sister, and my brother hosted the rehearsal dinner at his house. And his new girl friend shares a birthday with his ex, and the two girls were best friends growing up, living next door to each other. Awkward!
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