Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Shelly who was looking for advice on if she should hit on the guy she has a crush on.
The reason she wanted advice is because he is a teacher and teaches one of her kid’s classes. She has had a crush on this guy for a year now but they have only done the “eye contact and smiles thing.” The reason she thinks it hasn’t gone further than that is because of the weird circumstances. Shelly just wanted to know how to know for sure if he likes her before moving it to the next step and of it’s even a good idea.
I appreciate that she at least wrote in to get another opinion, but do the women of previous generations see what is going on with the young women today? Since some didn’t allow their husbands to put their foot down and tell their daughters/granddaughters/nieces, etc what’s up, there are a lot of young women who are just clueless when it comes to things like this.
To me this is a no brainer; why would anyone want to do something that can potentially make their child’s life more difficult? Parents have to put their kids first and think of the negative effect something like that could have on them. What if the relationship doesn’t work out and they still have to see their teacher every day or what if the other students find out and start making fun of him?
We need to start training the young woman of today about behaving appropriately when something like this happens. Then, maybe it will finally be a no brainer and they will always know what to do.
Seriously with the point you brought up BJ why make life potentially harder for you child. Plus seriously there are so many other guys in the world. Get a sitter and go meet some.
There is nothing wrong with dating a teacher. As long as it's not your kid's teacher! Maybe, very much MAYBE, if you are both single a few years after your kid graduated from high school (even if it's their kindergarten teacher). MAYBE. How do you have a parent teach conference with someone you once saw naked?
No one else?
Who sits on a crush for a year and hasn't made a decision one way or another? I think there may be other issues prevalent here. However, the point should be clear that you need to think of the consequences something like this may have, and the truth will certainly come out quickly.
Oh.. cool. A perk for a teacher with the ladies? That never happens, bring it on!