BJ'S BLOG 01/09/12 "The Meaning of Love"
Last Friday during Listeners on the Loose, we received a call from a Rock-A-Holic named “Hook.”
He wanted to comment on the Group Therapy topic we had earlier in the week about the woman who wanted to know when to introduce her son to her new boyfriend of only three weeks.
Hook explained that he was in a similar situation; he has an 8-year-old daughter and six months after breaking up with his ex, he started dating someone new. His ex, the mother of his daughter, said that his new girlfriend wasn’t allowed to meet their daughter for at least a year and a half.
Like an honorable guy, Hook did not go back on his promise and he waited a year and half for his girlfriend and his daughter to meet.
Within that year and a half, Hook’s ex did have a lot of guys but never had them come around their daughter until she started dating this one guy. After a few weeks of dating, she wanted to introduce her new boyfriend to their daughter. Hook told her that she had to wait a year and a half just like he did and she had to honor the rules.
She said that she didn’t have to go by those rules because she was in love with this guy.
First off, I‘m not surprised that she did this.
Second off, can we please find another word for “love”? I am really starting to hate that word because of all of the people misusing it.
When you meet someone for the first time, that is lust and infatuation but it’s not really love.
Do you want to know what love is? Love is staying with someone for 25 years when she doesn’t want to talk to you because she’s pissed off, the kids are driving you crazy, and yet you still come home to her every night and give her a hug and tell her that you love her. That is love; love is commitment, trust, and hard work. It’s not this feeling you get when you first start seeing someone and everything is still good and happy.
If we could please find another word for the “love” people feel at the beginning of a relationship, I would be a lot happier.