Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from Kurt who didn’t know what to do with his girlfriend.
Every time they get into an argument, she gives him the silent treatment then rants about him on her Facebook page for all of her 400 friends to see.
Our first caller was from a Rock-A-Holic named Kayla who is only 17-years-old and admitted that she does the same thing.
The reason Kayla says she does it is because her boyfriend won’t come directly to her to apologize and she just wants to find a way to vent.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to vent and letting out your emotions, but that’s what a diary or journal is for. The process of writing down your thoughts and feelings is very therapeutic and once you’re done writing it down, it’s just there for you, not for the whole internet to see.
When you rally your troops to comment negatively about someone, it’s a form of bullying. Tell your significant other that you’re upset with them.
The reason why some women do this kind of thing is because they want us men to feel the same way they are feeling so we can understand their pain.
Guys don’t get it because we don’t operate that way. If I was mad at Steve because he was being a jerk to me, I wouldn’t try to bring him down to feel what I’m feeling; instead I would tell him that he’s not being cool. If Steve sees that, he will apologize and then things are good again.
So ladies, go to a therapist, a journal, or a mentor to vent and let out the pain and if you want your man to understand your pain, tell him, don’t cyber bully him or anyone.