BJ'S BLOG 01/14/13 "Hurting Others with Rumors"
Last week, we received a text from a Rock-A-Holic named Marilyn, who wasn’t sure if she should break bad news to someone she doesn’t know very well.
While getting lunch at Kent Station last week, Marilyn saw one of her boyfriend’s friends on what appeared to be a date with a girl that wasn’t his girlfriend.
She doesn’t know the girl very well since they’ve only hung out on a few double dates, but she wonders if she should tell the girl because “girls should stick together.”
What Marilyn and anyone in this situation have to understand is, if you do this, you will be the cause of pain for many people. Not only would Marilyn be hurting this couple, but she will be hurting her boyfriend because she will be putting a big strain on the friendship he has with his buddy.
There is no good that can come from telling this girl something that may not be what it seems. What if the guy was on a work lunch or lunch with a family member? Worst of all, what if they broke up, he’s seeing someone new, and by going to the girlfriend, Marilyn just rubs salt in the wound caused by the break up?
We don’t know the full story, so why risk hurting someone who isn’t even your friend and causing issues for your significant other over something you don’t have all the facts on in the first place