BJ'S BLOG 01/23/13 "Annoyed on Facebook "
Yesterday, during Group Therapy, we read a message from a Rock-A-Holic named Graham who wrote in because of a problem he is having with his wife and Facebook.
He says that his wife is the most annoying person in Facebook history! She is constantly posting pictures of her shoes, “checks in” everywhere they go, posts about the “cute things” he does and so on.
He has already tried blocking her and talking to her about it, but nothing has worked. Graham wanted to know if he should just delete her off his Facebook.
I don’t know how to feel about the over sharers. On average the over sharers are women and what they have to understand is that a lot of men are not social in that way. The ways guys socialize is by getting together to watch or play something, and not say much throughout the whole process.
It is abusive to the nature of a guy to be hyper social to him; Graham’s wife is treating him like a one of her girlfriends and that is frustrating for a guy!
This is another example of the vaginization of society; some women want men to behave more like them.
How would Graham’s wife like it if he was constantly posting pictures of sexy women from Facebook pages like “The Gap” on his page?
The best way to have a great relationship with a woman is to use the whole “yes dear” method. When she is doing something that you find annoying, say “yes dear” and go into the garage and pound away at a project. It’s better to ignore things then get into a mess sometimes.
I have always been the catalyst for change and I don’t mind being the big mouth so here it goes: Ladies, it is massively unfair when you get myopic over something you think is awesome and a man doesn't even though you think he should. This has to change because a relationship is about two people learning about each other and giving what they other person wants.
Graham, and many other husbands like him, doesn’t enjoy this Facebook interaction and the best thing their wives can do is to just stop.