Jermaine emailed us with a very difficult problem which we discussed during Group Therapy yesterday.
Jermaine works full time but has to come home to clean his house and take care of his son while his wife sits in front of the TV from 8am to 4am every day.
Jermaine described his wife as “zombified” by the television and wants to cut his TV and internet subscription. When he told his wife this, she called him controlling and told him that what he is trying to do is domestic violence!
As men we really need to stand up and do something about this because the great women out there, for whatever reason, aren’t really policing their sisters who need help.
Many Rock-A-Holics suggested that she go to therapy which I agree she needs, but any therapist will tell you that if the person doesn’t want to be helped, counseling won’t work. You can’t force therapy or medication on a person who doesn’t see they even have a problem.
This is a very difficult situation Jermaine is in for two reasons. Reason 1: it’s his wife’s responsibility to seek and get the help she needs to motivate her live her life better, and Reason 2: the dreaded domestic violence bomb was dropped.
What Jermaine needs to do, and any other man who is going through this is immediately get legal help whether you plan on getting separated right now or not because she can later claim domestic violence in a court of law. Jermaine, record these incidents so that you can later prove your innocence if she tries to turn it on you sometime.
As a stable guy, I try to use people like Jermaine as examples to coach other guys on how to also be stable and safe in their lives.