BJ'S BLOG 01/30/13 "Vacation Planning"
A Rock-A-Holic named Tim emailed in looking for some Group Therapy help.
Tim had quite the argument with his girlfriend while trying to make vacation plans for the summer.
It started when he mentioned that they should go to Maui and his girlfriend said NO!
The reason she doesn’t want to go to Maui is because she knows that Tim and an ex went there on vacation before. She’s afraid that during the vacation she is going to be constantly be thinking about what they were doing last time, if Tim is having more fun this time, etc.
He wanted to know if his girlfriend has a point and it’s not ok to go on vacation to the same place you took an ex.
This is a big thing for some women; they don’t like to be compared or put up against other women for any reason.
I’ve actually thought about this before that if for whatever reason my wife wasn’t in my life anymore and I was with someone else, would I take them to my favorite vacation spot?
This is really a big thing for some women. I love Hawaii and I really love where we stay because it’s a nice place, a good value, and I feel comfortable there.
I think a good rule of thumb is to wait a year after the break up to start taking your significant other to the places you once went to with an ex; that way, you’ve had time to heal from the last relationship and being at these places won’t spark painful memories.
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