BJ'S BLOG 02/01/13 "Insensitive?"
Yesterday on the show, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Jeff who was thinking about doing something that would make him look like an insensitive jerk.
Near the property line of his house, there is a memorial of someone who died in a drunk driving accident when the car hit a tree dead on and it’s been there for over a year.
From time to time, there will people who show up to this memorial and leave flowers. Jeff is tired of this sad monument every time he leaves or comes home and wanted to know if he should write them a note asking them to remove it or if he should just remove it himself.
Society seems to have gotten to a point where it believes that if they’re in pain, they get to do whatever they want. I understand that everyone goes through all kinds of pain and tough times, but I’m here to say that no, just because you’re in pain you can’t do whatever you want.
People are going to think I’m a jerk to say this but, when it comes to grieving, I’ve always seen that as a private and personal thing. I don’t understand why it has to be on display for everyone to see. It would suck to see a reminder of death every time you want to leave your house!
It’s one thing if there is an actual memorial there for the person but something like what Jeff is describing, there should be a limit for how long it’s out there.
By having it there, they are affecting the mood of people who had no idea who these victims were; it’s a heavy thing to put on anyone and it isn’t fair.
If you want to celebrate someone’s life, why do it on the spot they died? When I think about my mother or father, I celebrate their lives by remembering them when they were happy and laughing, not by thinking about or looking at their tombstones.