Yesterday on the show, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Carly, who needed some Group Therapy.
Carly has been seeing a guy for a few months but it wasn’t until recently that they became exclusive. Before they made it official, they were free to see other people, which she hated!
This is their first Valentine’s Day as a real couple but unfortunately her boyfriend said he has to work late and can’t go out that night.
Since they only recently became exclusive, Carly is worried that he is actually spending that day with another woman and was considering dropping by his office with dinner either unannounced.
When I first got together with my wife, I was in a similar situation; she wanted to see other people and even though I didn’t like it, I put it up with it because I wanted to be with her.
Even thought my marriage is great now, I would never put myself in this situation again because I now have much higher self esteem.
Why would a person get into a relationship that made them uncomfortable and didn’t work for them unless they had low self esteem and thought this was the best that they could do?
I believe that Carly has been cheated on before which is why she doesn’t trust this guy. If you can’t trust someone, why be with them?
Also, to all the guys who are in the boyfriend’s situation I’d like to ask, what kind of a guy are you that you would stay in a relationship with a person who thinks you are a cheater? What would make a person think they deserve to be with someone who doesn’t trust them?
People don’t need to be in a relationship where they either don’t feel comfortable with the situation or where trust is an issue. If we all stood up and said “I don't need this and I'm leaving,” the world would be a much better place, because you don't need anyone if you are happy with yourself.