BJ Shea

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BJ'S BLOG 02/13/12 "Facebook Parenting"

Last week, we played audio of what one father did to teach his daughter a lesson and while many people applauded him, I didn’t share their opinion.

Tommy Jordan of North Carolina posted a video of himself on YouTube called titled "Facebook Parenting: for the troubled teen" where he fires 9 shots from a .45 gun into his 15-year-old daughter’s laptop.

Why did Tommy do this? He did it because he was mad that his daughter posted on her Facebook complaining about the chores her parents are making her do and about the newest gadgets she doesn’t own. 

Here is the video:

 

The video currently has over 21,400,000 views so far!

Now, I would never defend a dumb kid behaving badly and I believe Tommy’s daughter was not behaving badly.

She was doing what any other person does when they are feeling stressed or upset…they vent.
Before social networking sites, teenagers would rant, vent, and let everything out in their own private journal but now a days, they use Facebook and Twitter. Granted, it’s not always the best method because whatever you write is out there for everyone to see, but if you can let it out and be done with it, then there is nothing wrong with it.

I don’t think I would have been as upset if he would have done this to a son instead of his daughter because, like I’ve said before, boys and girls learn differently.

Boys learn through tough love whether it’s through corporal punishment or a harsh lesson while girls need to be talked to.

If you have a good enough relationship with your child, you shouldn’t feel like you have to go to the extreme of shooting their laptop, you should be able to talk to them one on one.
 

 



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02/13/2012 8:48AM
BJ'S BLOG 02/13/12 "Facebook Parenting"
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02/13/2012 11:32AM
Agreed
I do agree with you BJ on this one. I dont understand the logic in wasting hard earned money by shooting a computer to tell your kid "you have no right to your own opinion". This should have been handled differently. When it comes to social networking if you find you kid has vented something like this try comunicating with them. I had plenty of chores to do growing up and I have my kids do the same. They do not complain about it because they understand responsiblitiy. I have taken the time to educate my kids that if you want something in life you have to work for it. For this guy to go this far shows his lack of respect for his daughter and I kinda dont blame her for being pissed. If you dont want your kids being pricks dont raise them to be pricks.
02/13/2012 12:47PM
Disagreed to a point
BJ, To a certain degree this guy is in the right, he had talked to his daughter about her behavior on FB before and she didn't get the point. I can tell you that my daughter doesn't listen to us all the time and I have learned that sometimes with head strong women you have to treat them like a boy to get the point across. I sometimes have to be harsh, blunt, and a total H-hole to her. So I think this guy was in the right, he was treated with disrespect in a public place (FB) by his daughter who was a repeat offender of this. He bought her the laptop and she probably cherished it so to teach her a lesson he gave her a taste of her own medicine (albeit Southern Style) and I bet she wised up a bit. I would be willing to be bet she was an only child and has a bit of a princess complex. This all being said, I myself would have just taken away the laptop and told her that she wouldn't be getting it back until I deemed it a appropriate and so there was no fixed date - letting her wonder if she would EVER get it back. But that is just my own opinion.
02/13/2012 1:49PM
Disagreed to a point is right ^
My brother has two daughters. One, age 6, is very bossy, hard headed and very disrespectful. The other, age 5, is soft, kind hearted and very girly. She rarely gets into trouble on her own . Her sister usually gets her to do something bad and then they both get punished. My brother punishes them both the same way. Now the 6 year old will cry over whatever the punishment was, for 2 minutes and then go tell her dad she hates him and" he can't tell her what to do". The 5 year old will usually be upset for a very long time, and go talk to her dad about what happened and apologize and what not. I have told my brother several times, that these girls are very different and he needs to punish them both differently, because this will work in reverse for the 5 year old. Seems to me like this guys daughter is like my 6 year old niece, and let me tell you something, no matter how much you "talk things out" beg, plead and even bribe it will not work for this type of female. He was plain fed up, and i think what he did was right.
02/13/2012 5:08PM
Update to Facebook Dad: Child Services pays him a visit...
Looks like Child Services agrees with you too BJ. - Sandra Tommy Jordan, the former Marine who made waves last week with a video of himself putting his own laptop out of its misery, was visited by Child Protective Services officials as well as local police officers in the wake of his Internet stardom. The Child Services agents reportedly interviewed the Stanly County, NC man and his daughter separately, but took no action. The police, however, did have something to say to Jordan: “Kudos.” “I actually had a “thank you” from an entire detectives squad,” Jordan wrote in a Facebook post published over the weekend. “And another police officer is using it in a positive manner in his presentation for the school system. How’s about those apples? Didn’t expect THAT when you called the cops did you?” Many people apparently called to ask Albermarle police what was being done about the angry dad, but were told there was nothing that could be done as Jordan lives outside city limits, and therefore outside police jurisdiction. Speaking with Channel 9, a Stanly County Sheriff’s Office spox said Jordan broke no laws, and an investigation would not be launched. Story was taken from wsoc tv in North Carolina.
02/13/2012 7:57PM
never know what will work next time we will try talking about it now had dad some sells sweethart
I can't say for sure because I didn't see what the daughter posted on facebook But I can see two good Points to the Fathers teaching method First point Maybe she didn't talk to her parents about her problem with haveing so many chores to do and only posted it on facebook there for the laptop was becomeing a block in the comunication barrier By shooting the laptop. He removed that block which brings me to my seconed pont not only did he remove the block in commuication but he opened a channel for it now the poor girl who got her laptop Shot to peaces can talk to her parents about all the Chores she could possibly do to get a new one It may Seem Kind of extream But she should be thankful her dad is in her life and that's he's willing to go to any langth to Teach his daughter And to say the least u have video of your dad Filling your laptop full of bullets That's worth more then a laptop In my eyes Plus its pretty funny ....
02/13/2012 9:55PM
Your own words
BJ, You have said in the past how it is better to punish children while they are still with you to correct bad behavior before it is too late (ie. police involvement) or in this case getting fired from a job for bad mouthing her boss. She had the laptop and could have just as easily opened a word document but she chose Facebook. This wasn't the first time she had done this and the last time it happened, the punishment didn't stick. I don't agree with shooting the laptop instead of just taking it back, but I am not the father of this girl.
02/14/2012 10:19PM
bj i have to tell u something
But my phone won't let me emal u from the page does anybody know bj emal I tryed. Bjsea @kisw.com and it didn't work
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