Here at Group Therapy, we’re giving out little candy hearts that say things like SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY and YOU’VE GOT ISSUES. After all, isn’t honesty the best policy when it comes to interpersonal relationships?
Well…it is sometimes.
Janet is a Rock-A-Holic who needs help with a situation that could easily turn into a nightmare. She was talking to a longtime male friend on the phone recently, and he confessed that he’d had a sex dream about her. Janet is really wishing that he hadn’t told her about the dream, because she’s not only friends with him, she’s also close to his WIFE. Oh, and the happy couple recently had a baby, too!
A sex dream about a friend has no real meaning to Janet, but this guy went into specific detail, and she felt like they were having phone sex (although it sounds like he may have been doing all the talking.)
The whole experience has left Janet feeling disturbed and confused. Should she tell his wife? Was he even telling the truth, or maybe making an attempted pass at Janet? Is this something she can just ignore, and hope that it never comes up again?
Bonus Question for HONESTY POINTS: Have you ever lied about having a sex dream in order to figure out if the person you’re telling is interested in hooking up?
I have never told someone I had a sex dream about them in order to find out if they were interested. What a waste of valuable time ;-) Janet should just let it drop unless it happens again.
Have had this happen...
I don't think telling his wife would be the wise thing to do. It would only start something bad between his marriage, and make things worse for her. I had to talk to my Friend about how I felt in the situation. If he loves his wife and is not looking for anything from her, it will come out in talking and being honest. I think that this is something he needs to workout with his wife, and not her.
Drop the (male) friend
It'd be a bad idea to mention it to the wife to cause drama, but you now know exactly what kind of person the male friend is. Do you really need someone like that in your life?
RE: Drop the (male) friend
I'm the kind of person where I can hang out in a group setting but I wouldn't hang with my friend's boyfriend just solo. It's a little odd and can be disrespectful. -