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Today’s session of Group Therapy is kinda-sorta about Rock-A-Holics WALKING Rock-A-Holics. Well, the junior Rock-A-Holics, anyway…
We heard from Heather, who recently met up with her girlfriend for a walk with their kids. They both have 4-year-olds, so it should have been a perfect get-together. Unfortunately, Heather’s friend has her kid on a leash, and that drives Heather absolutely insane. Her husband doesn’t think it’s a big deal, so she’s turning to you for some feedback, good people!
Heather doesn’t get the kid leash concept at all. She thinks they’re embarrassing, and irresponsible. She believes parents should pay closer attention to their kids. At the moment, she’s so irritated about the situation that she’s actually considering breaking off the playdates. Is it really worth that kind of drastic measure?
Personally, I also don’t think a leash is a big deal. I don’t see the problem at all. Kids are like tornadoes: they zip around without warning, get out of control, toss other people’s stuff all over, and they can disappear at a moment’s notice. Why not take the opportunity to keep that childhood exuberance a little more directed?
Plus, with a kid leash, you can have a life while handling your responsibilities. It’s really no different than having a dog…but a dog is so much easier to train!
Should Heather discuss this problem with her friend? Stop calling her and see if she gets the hint? Or do you think Heather’s personal leash is a little bit too tight? Sound off!
Leashes are for DOGS! If your not willing to control your kid, thru paying attention to them as well as teaching them how to behave in public, DON'T HAVE THEM or at least don't take them out in public til they are old enough to know how to behave. It's degrading to a child and in the case of parents jerking them back to maintain control, possibly injury inducing. I wouldn't set up the play dates anymore either and would tell the other parent why. accepting the play date is showing acceptance for the behavior.
No big deal
When I was a first time mother my father said I should try the leash. Since we were in the mall. So I tired to put the kid leash on my daughter . She got down and said " I'm a dog ! Bark ! Bark !" Funniest thing ever. That day I didn't use the leash.
why does she care?
Not her kid, not her problem. Kids can run away so fast. O think leashes can be a very good thing if you are in a high population area.
pros and cons
While yes it can be a good thing in the case of preventing a child aubduction. It could also cause lasting phycological issues later in life for the child.. and when do you draw the line to end it ? Children are very impresionable at young ages.
It Depends on the Usage
I think that if you are planning on bringing your kid to someplace dangerous, or incredibly crowded- like Disneyland... then a kid leash is a great too. Also, if you are dealing with a special needs child it might come in handy. But there is a problem when parents use a leash in place of teaching their children boundaries and limitations.
Some children are a handful,and if you haven't had the experience of having a child like that, then you wouldn't understand. My second child I had at 27, she was a hand full. She got spanked by all the neighbors, and relatives. Then after you spanked her she would do again. I regret not having used a leash. Luckily she was the easiest teenager. LOL. Had my third at 42, and yes, I did use a leash, and he loved it. He used to ask to put it on. It kept him safe. He is a big boy, so I was never able to carry him. I have back problems. We could go anywhere, and not worry about anyone taking him, or him running out in traffic, etc.
Why don't we ask the kids that grew up?
Has anyone asked these kids that grew up with the leash how they feel? Did we talk to them and perhaps evaluate them for their general well being before we assumed they were "harmed" psychologically? By my reckoning, the concept of the child leash is roughly 20ish years, but the argument has been happening for about ten.
For the record, I don't care for the leash either, but I do pay attention to my kids. That's my obligation as a dad.
not your kid, not your problem.
I was leashed as a child and it did not cause me any harm physically or psychologically. I use the leash on my toddler because he doesn't listen when I yell for him to stop running and has ran into an empty (thank god) street. He is only 2 and doesn't mind the leash. I don't tug on it like you would for a jumping dog, its simply to stop him from running away. At 4-years old though, they should be old enough to obey commands like 'stop' and should grasp the consept of road safety. But, its not her kid so its not her problem. Oh, and to the first poster: really? Don't take your kid in public till they're well behaved? I'm sorry, but do you have children? Something tells me you don't because you sound like an idiot. Please don't breed.
not your kid, not your problem.
I was leashed as a child and it did not cause me any harm physically or psychologically. I use the leash on my toddler because he doesn't listen when I yell for him to stop running and has ran into an empty (thankfully) street. He is only 2 and doesn't mind the leash. I don't tug on it like you would for a jumping dog, its simply to stop him from running away. At 4-years old though, they should be old enough to obey commands like 'stop' and should grasp the consept of road safety. But, its not her kid so its not her problem. Oh, and to the first poster: really? Don't take your kid in public till they're well behaved? I'm sorry, but do you have children? Something tells me you don't because you sound like an idiot. Please don't breed.
Mind your own child
I had a leash for my youngest son and it made my life SO MUCH EASIER. I am not lazy or unattending, however, unless you really have a perfectly obedient and totally drone-child, you may rethink the leash. It really is nice to have both hands free.
From a 45 year old....
My parents had me on a leash 43 years ago. They used it when we went to Yellowstone and other potentially dangerous situations. I had a wrist strap thing for my kids who are now in their 20's. They are great for little ones that want freedom towalk and not be carried everywhere.
Let your friend do what she does
If the leash bothers you, don't hang with that friend. I personally have ditched friends for that phase of their parenthood. "Sorry, bro, that's weird, don't want to be seen with you and your freak on a leash."
I don't see any negative effects with the few children that did wear the leash (they were wild from the get go, and a leash won't change that), but I would never have done it with my children. I taught them early on to be wary of their surroundings, and to not run into the street.
Every child is different. Lazy isn't the issue. I have two extremely high-energy boys who would bolt at a moments notice. It was unsafe, and there were two of them. Neither of them wanted their hand in the death grip I had to keep it in when we were on crowded streets .As much as we like to think that our parenting experience makes us universal experts, you know nothing about what another parent's child needs. And if it bothers you, I encourage you to tell the other mom as soon as possible, so she can stop wasting her time with a judgmental person who isn't really a friend. What's next? Your bottle-feeding is offensive? The fact that you co-sleep is creepy? Can't be seen around a child that hasn't potty-trained by age 3? Focus on your own kid.
Best invention ever
As a parent my self of an 8 year old you can't keep eyes on kids 24 7 to always keep them out of trouble most kids run when given the oppertunity the kid leash not thinking if it as treating your kid as a dog more along the lines of keeping your kid safer and out of mischief while out and about yeah it may freak some people out but in today's world were people take kids right out of their own beds you can't do enough on keeping your children safe.
Soo lazy! You need to watch your kid in public. If you need a leash to do it, the kid's not the one with ADD.
Katt Williams said it best (nsfw of course):