Yesterday, we read a message from a Rock-A-Holic name Sara asked for help with something weird her boss is doing.
Sara is an engaged 23-year old who has been at her job for a year and a half. Her boss is 45 and takes her to lunch 2-3 times a week. He also takes the other guys to lunch but on different days.
Her fiancé has no problem with this but some people are telling her she’s walking through a mine field. Recently he started sharing, without specifics that he and his wife are having marital problems.
This has made her uneasy and she wanted to know if this was a sign of trouble for her.
Some guys are just dumb; they forget when they rise to a position of power that absolute power corrupts absolutely.
This makes me angry on so many levels. He is a 45-year-old married man taking to a young woman who is his subordinate about his personal issues!
This is why we have to have HR departments because idiots like this continue to put women in an uncomfortable situation. Sara is trying to do good job and be a good employee and this guy has gone over the line.
This is a perfect time to send a message and make this guy an example. Fire this jerk to teach him and others a lesson because he put an employee in a legitimately tough spot.
I have no problems with co-workers talking and making friends with each other, but if they are all on the same level. Things get too complicated and messy if it’s happening with bosses because there has to be a level of professionalism and respect there. This guy was completely inappropriate and should be reprimanded for it.
So running personal problems through subordinates isn't a great idea, but I think it isn't something to be fired for unless the manager was truly performing inappropriate conduct like sexual harassment.
There is a good opportunity for this manager to spend lunches with his underlings to get to know how they want to grow in their career and help them achieve those goals. I can't say how this man can make that mentality switch, but surely Sara would appreciate the change.
Jewel of Rock
This particular situation screams sexual harassment lawsuit. The boss is an idiot & won't last long at his job. In the same situation, I personally would be blunt with the guy and let him know he's crossing a line. She's probably a pretty young thing & he's playing with fire. What an idiot!!
It sounds to me as if Sara's boss is testing the waters and is looking for her to give him a signal that she is open to an affair. The guys an idiot and if Sara were to choose to work with HR and set him up, he would be in some deep $hit.