BJ'S BLOG 03/19/13 "Compromise"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from Leah who thinks her boyfriend was in the wrong for what he told her and wanted to get her fellow Rock–A-Holic’s opinions.
Leah is 22-years-old and her boyfriend is 25. Over the weekend, she went out to celebrate Saint Patrick’s Day with some friends.
To go out, she put on a short, bright green dress that she says looked fantastic on her but when her boyfriend saw her, he immediately told her to change her clothes because the outfit was too slutty and revealing.
Leah wanted to know if guys should get a say in what their girlfriends/wives wear? She also asked if guys want their girlfriends/wives to look hot.
To put it simply, guys generally want girls that we don’t know to dress revealing. When it comes to our girlfriends and even the girlfriends of our friends, we want them to dress appropriately so they are not a distraction or attraction.
Some women don’t understand that what you wear is saying something about yourself. Certain clothing worn by women is designed to attract the attention of a man. Just like certain gestures that men do are done to attract the attention of women like offering to buy them a drink. I would imagine that Leah would not appreciate her boyfriend buying random women drinks at the bar any more than he doesn’t like the outfit she chose.
You just have to compromise if you’re in a relationship. When someone is single, they only have to worry about themselves, but when they become a couple, they have another person’s feelings to take into consideration.
If this is something you can’t do, then stay single; you’re just too selfish and immature to be in a relationship.