Yesterday, we read a message a Rock-A-Holic named Lucy sent us about an issue she is having involving her daughter’s father.
Lucy has a 10-year-old daughter that was a result of an affair she had with a married man. When his wife found out about the pregnancy, she threatened to take everything from him if he continued to see Lucy. The only thing he was allowed to do was pay his child support which he has never failed to pay.
About a month ago, he emailed Lucy to tell her that he is now divorced and wants to be in their daughter’s life now.
She doesn’t know what to do; her daughter would be excited to have her father in her life but Lucy doesn’t want their lives to be disrupted after all these years. It would also break her heart to see him let their daughter down.
To me this is a no brainer; it shouldn’t matter what Lucy feels about this because it’s not about her, it’s about her child. That is who should come first.
Plus, this guy has been paying his child support; they were both irresponsible when they had an affair but he’s been doing his part and paying to help raise this kid so he has every right to meet and get to know his daughter.
Now I don’t know what Lucy’s situation is now in terms of men in her life, but how many times have we heard of single moms bringing strange men to meet their kids too quickly?
Kids deserve to know about their origins. I’m not necessarily saying that they should know everything about their parents’ past but they should know where they come from.
The bottom line is that their daughter should come first, and she deserves to know both her parents.