BJ'S BLOG 04/03/14 "One Night in Jail"
Today’s session of Group Therapy has put me in the mood for a song. Come on, Rock-A-Holics, you all know this one:
“Bad boys, bad boys, what’cha gonna do? What’cha gonna do when they come for you?”
We might have to change the famous COPS theme to call out the bad girls, depending on the evidence we hear from Marissa, who reached out and is looking for some advice. Marissa once spent a night in jail, and she’s not sure if she should tell the man she’s involved with.
Marissa’s situation wasn’t exactly a small matter: she spent the night in jail for a DUI. She’s 27 years old, and has been dating her new guy for a month…so how important is disclosure of the penalty she paid for a serious lapse in judgment?
I feel like most women are very detail-oriented when it comes to a partner’s past, but men tend to divide issues into very black and white columns. Marissa insists that she doesn’t drink and drive anymore, but a DUI can definitely carry a special stigma. Don’t get me wrong; I believe in letting actions speak louder than words, but if this was my girlfriend, the possibility would almost certainly be on my mind every time she goes out drinking.
Personally, I think Marissa should leave the past in the past, and focus on being wiser in the future. Let’s hear your judgment on this case!
BONUS HONESTY POINTS: Have you ever confessed a criminal past to a partner, and how did they take the news?
Tags : Topics : Human Interest