BJ'S BLOG 04/15/14 "A Girlfriend's Confession"
Howdy, Rock-A-Holics! You wanna hang out? We could try some Group Therapy together, if you’re into that…
Kevin and his girlfriend are both in their early 30s, and they’ve been together for a couple of years now…but she recently confessed something that has left Kevin in a state of shock. The girlfriend admitted that she was in a 5-year relationship when they met, and she dumped the guy when she and Kevin “started hanging out.”
(My first question in this story: What does “hanging out” mean, exactly? Friendly get-togethers? Pants or no pants? It’s so hard to decode the terminology these days.)
Kevin’s world has been a little bit rocked by this revelation. He’s bothered that she kept a secret from him, and he’s worried that she might do the same thing to him.
I’m pretty sure that the majority of all relationships end up one of two ways: you’re either together forever, or you don’t earn your tenure. Even when the outcome falls into a grey area, it still comes to one of those two conclusions.
Is it worth the concern that Kevin’s going through? Objectively, this girlfriend really only broke up a previous relationship in favor of Kevin. It’s never good to lie, or keep secrets, in a relationship…but could she be the rare leopard that changes her spots? Furthermore, does she earn any points for being honest about it, even if it took her a little while to get there?
Have any of you been through this? Can you offer Kevin some advice?
BONUS HONESTY POINTS: Are you, or your partner, a reformed cheater?