BJ'S BLOG 04/16/14 "Free Drinks"
Welcome to the Group Therapy club, ladies and gents. Grab yourself a drink, and put it on my tab.
(Please note: we only serve water, and it’s free. Remember to tip your server.)
Lauren is a Rock-A-Holic who doesn’t let her relationship status keep her from flirting with guys at the bar, and letting them buy drinks for her. She recently spent 45 minutes drinking with a strange man (on his dime) before mentioning that she was in a committed situation. The would-be suitor wasn’t too happy about this; he bailed out immediately, and told Lauren that she’d been leading him on. He also said that he wouldn’t accept that kind of behavior from a girlfriend.
Naturally, Lauren isn’t sure if she’s doing anything wrong.
I can appreciate the fact that Lauren reached out, told her story, and is now looking for opinions from her fellow Rock-A-Holics…but I’m not sure if she’s going to appreciate my feelings on the matter.
Personally, I think there’s an implied social understanding when a woman allows a man to buy her a drink in a bar; it creates the hope of a possibility for something beyond acquaintance. If you’re in a relationship, I think it’s best to put your cards on the table at the beginning of the game. You could almost reduce that down to simple common courtesy.
I’m not saying there’s a reasonable expectation of something physical happening because a man buys a drink for a woman, but can we agree that most people don’t engage each other in bars for purely platonic reasons? It’s not a Sunday Social.
Is Lauren doing anything wrong by accepting drinks from guys in bars, and talking to them for an extended amount of time before telling the truth? Oh, and she hasn’t told her boyfriend about the guy who felt she was leading him on…but she wonders if she should.
Let’s hear it from you!
Tags : Topics : Human Interest