BJ'S BLOG 04/25/13 "Pictures of an Ex"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we helped out a Rock-A-Holic named Oscar.
Oscar wrote in and told us that he has digital photographs of his ex girlfriends going back to the year 2000 and still has a few pictures on Facebook.
His current girlfriend is not happy about this at all. She wants him to delete all the pictures off Facebook…and his computer!
Oscar understands why having pictures of an ex on Facebook isn’t a good idea but he doesn’t think he should delete them off his computer. He would have no problem if his girlfriend kept a few pictures of her exes but he wanted to get the Rock-A-Holics opinion.
I didn’t have a lot of girlfriends but I do still have a photo album somewhere with pictures of an ex of mine and myself at prom and a letter she gave me and that’s about it. The difference is, I don’t have these visible for the public to see like Oscar does on Facebook.
I believe we are living in a time where everyone thinks they can have everything and do anything they want to. I can see why his current girlfriend is upset; it’s disrespectful. If my wife had a problem with my prom photos, I wouldn’t have issue with getting rid of them.
If on the other hand, this is a newer relationship and you are not ready to let go of this stuff yet, then lock it up and keep it away from where she can’t find it but know this may come up again when the relationship gets more serious.