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Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read a text message we received at 77999 from a Rock-A-Holic named Kenny.
His text says he’s about to burst because he’s in big trouble and doesn’t know what to do.
A few years ago, his wife confronted him about his gambling problem and told him if he ever gambled again that she would leave with him.
He says he hasn’t been to the casino in two years but the other night, his buddies “twisted his arm” to play poker with them and Kenny actually won a couple thousand dollars.
In all honesty, this should end right here. I’m a very black and white person; he made a deal, he broke said deal and now he has to face the consequences of his actions.
He says they could really use the money to pay off some bills so he’s wondering how he should tell her, if at all.
If you’re tight on money, why would you gamble any money you do have? Yeah, you won this time, but what if you lost it all? You would have been in even more of a financial bind. That’s why your wife is going to get mad at you!
Kenny ends his text by saying he doesn’t plan on gambling again. You didn’t plan on gambling this time either, so what will be the excuse next time? Here is the thing about addicts, their word is useless, they can only prove themselves through their actions which is what Kenny needs to do.
Honesty is the building blocks of every relationship. He needs to tell his wife, and he has already waited too long to tell her. Also, peer pressure is not an excuse at all, ever. There is a reason why it is called a choice.
Gripped by Gambling. Sure, everyone loves to gamble . . . if they win. But, the person sitting next to you in church, the man in line at the grocery store, or one of your co-workers; any one of these could be involved with a gambling problem. Imagine your grandmother committing a crime to support her gambling addiction. I am a recovering alcoholic, gambler, and have recovered from other addictive behaviors. I published a book, Gripped by Gambling, where the readers can follow the destructive path of the compulsive gambler, a prison sentence, and then on to the recovery road.
I also publish a free online newsletter, Women Helping Women, which has been on-line for more than twelve years and is read by hundreds of women (and men) from around the world. (www.femalegamblers.info). I have been interviewed many times, and appeared on the 60 Minutes show in January 2011, which was moderated by Leslie Stahl.