BJ'S BLOG 05/09/14 "Snooping on Dad's Computer"
We all have secrets. Some are big, others are little, and they all run the gamut from completely mundane to jaw-droppingly bizarre. Rest assured, your secrets are absolutely safe in Group Therapy…as long as you don’t mind sharing them with a legion of your fellow Rock-A-Holics!
I’ll admit something to you, my friends: I’m not too thrilled about this message from Christina. We do our best to help everyone without bias, but this is one of those cases that get me really fired up. Maybe you’ll feel differently…
Christina recently had to use her father’s computer for a work matter during a visit with her parents. As she typed in a URL, she noticed that the address was auto-filling to what seemed like a porn site, so she decided to click through to see what it was. “Curiosity got the best of me,” she claims.
This simple act was the beginning of a trip down the internet rabbit hole for Christina, as she started snooping deeper and deeper into the porn sites that she found in her father’s search history. Some of these sites even featured videos of older men having sex with younger women (gasp!) Not surprisingly, she was completely scandalized and disgusted by what she found.
(Why would anyone do this?)
Christina says that her mother is a completely innocent woman who rarely, if ever, uses a computer, and therefore isn’t likely to ever find out about the dad’s pornography habit…so naturally, Christina is wondering if she should tell her all about it.
(What are these “boundaries” you speak of?”)
I don’t even know where to start with this one. None of these websites were illegal, but Christina is clearly having trouble coming to terms with the fact that her father enjoys pornography just as much as any other man does. Let’s not even waste our time with the idea that Christina is very likely misjudging the prudishness of her own mother.
Personally, I believe porn is a great component of a healthy marriage. Men and women are different animals, and I’m pretty sure that having your husband looking at porn is a hell of a lot better than directing his desires at other women.
Christina, I think you need to let this go and move on. You’re not the decency police, and your parents were being adults before you were even born (literally, in this case)! Go find something else to be offended by.