Yesterday we read an email from Chelsea during Group Therapy who has some serious problems.
She recently broke up with a guy who treated her really poorly and moved to Portland, Oregon to live with her sister.
After the break up, she found out she was three months pregnant and it belongs to her ex. Chelsea thought the right thing to do is to tell her ex since he is the father. When she told him, he immediately said he wanted to get back together with her to raise the baby together and if not, he would try to get complete custody of it.
Chelsea doesn’t want to be with him yet she doesn’t want her kid to grow up without a father.
I don’t mean to beat up Chelsea, but she’s 28 years old…that is old enough to know better.
I’m going to use her as an example for other women.
Why would you have unprotected sex with someone you didn’t think you were going to be with much longer?
You have to be responsible for your own vagina because no one else will. You don’t want to have a child in the midst of drama where there will be court cases and financially instability. Is that really the life you want to give your child?
We know men are irrational when they are horny and I try my best to train guys to be proactive before they get into bed with anyone but we need to also be training the women on how to be responsible with their vagina.
My word of advice to Chelsea is to seek some therapeutic advice from a professional. This doesn’t mean that you can’t make it, but it’s probably best you don’t start a relationship with this guy again and seek the proper support system for your life and your baby’s life.