BJ'S BLOG 06/11/13 "Equal Housework"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, I read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Brooke who is already having problems in her marriage.
She explains that she met her husband a year ago and they “fell hard for each other” and have been married for three months.
The problem Brooke has is that he doesn’t help around the house. She has to do all the cooking, cleaning, and she even has to feed her husband’s dog while he sits around watching TV, playing on the internet, or working on his truck.
She says even though he is a slob, he isn’t lazy because he pulls in 90 thousand dollars a year at his job. Brooke didn’t know what to do at this point because she is already married to him.
First off, I’d like to ask why someone would get married if they have only known them for a year.
That is not really enough time to really get to know someone and their living habits.
I also want to point out that her husband does do his part, he works at a job where he makes $90K per year and I can only assume that he makes that kind of money by working hard.
Some people say that everything in 2013 needs to be equal in the household but that is not necessarily fair. I believe that when it comes to house work, the amount of work done at jobs should also be taken into consideration.
If one partner brings in 70% of the income, then they should only be responsible for 30% of the chores. That’s equality to me.