Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from an anonymous Rock-A-Holic named “Shelly.”
“Shelly” explained in her email that she has been with her boyfriend for a year and a half and are living together.
When they first got together, they discussed the people that they previously dated and her boyfriend talked about a girl who he had a three week sex fling with who has since moved to California to be a model. “Shelly” says she was already insecure because she saw pictures of this girl and “Shelly” thinks that this girl is better looking than her.
A few nights ago, “Shelly” and her boyfriend got to talking about ex’s and she asked if he has used pictures of any of his ex’s for his “man alone time.” He said no, but about 10 minutes later he came back and admitted that about 4 months ago he found some of her topless modeling pictures online and had some “alone time” with them.“Shelly” was not only mad that he lied but mad that he did this in the first place but wanted to know if she was overreacting.
The fascinating part about “Shelly’s” email is that she proves how insecure she is when she says that her boyfriends ex is hotter than her. Regardless of what this guy does or doesn’t do, because “Shelly” is thinking like this, she is looking for failure.
Women don’t understand men at all. We’ve done so much to understand you at your demand because of the feminist movement. A lot of your problems stem from you not knowing what is going on in our minds.
I’m just going to leave everyone with this. I’ve spent a lot of time in therapy and I was told by my therapist that when it comes to solo activity as in what you do or look at when you’re by yourself, it is no one’s business. Whether you are married or in a relationship, if your significant other asks what you do when you’re having your “alone time” you are allowed to tell them, “It’s none of your business.” This applies to both men and women and regardless of how intimate a relationship might be. You do not have to share that info and people do not have the right to judge you for what you do. Also, when your partner asks about your ex girlfriends or boyfriends, you can simply answer, “that’s in the past and I don’t like thinking about the past, I just like thinking about you.” If your partner can’t handle that, then they might not be worth hanging around with.
