BJ'S BLOG 06/14/13 "Quality Love"
Earlier this week we received a text at 77999 from a Rock-A-Holic named Kate who wanted our opinion on how to handle a situation with her daughter.
Her 16-year-old recently told her she likes a guy. The problem Kate has with this guy is she considers the kid a freak with her green hair and all black attire.
Kate told her daughter that she’s not allowed to date this guy and she is not interested in meeting him…ever! Her husband told her that she needs to relax and meet the kid before forming and opinion on him.
The reason she texted us was because she wanted to know if she should listen to her husband or should she force her daughter to obey her.
First off I’d like to congratulate Kate because she has a husband and father figure in her daughter’s life. Second off, I’d like ask: has anyone has ever been able to get a 16-year-old girl to obey their parents?
Vicky B actually weighed in and said that she shouldn’t judge him by how he looks and if she did a good job parenting her daughter, then she shouldn’t worry about her falling on the wrong path.
That’s a good point; if she has been shown good quality love especially by her father, she will be successful in relationships. If a guy starts mistreating her emotionally, physically, or in any other way, she will be strong enough to walk away.
I made sure my own daughter was given the proper amount of love and emotional support from me so that she would have high standards for men and how they treat her. If Kate and her husband do the same with their daughter, they won’t have to worry about any guy she dates, no matter what color his hair is.