BJ'S BLOG 06/18/13 "Too Young"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read a texted we received at 77999 by a Rock-A-Holic named Bill who was seeking some advice.
He’s been dating his girlfriend for a year now; they have a lot of the same hobbies and she even shares his biggest passion in life.
Their relationship is going so great that he’s thought that she might be “the one”. He has no reason to want to end it except for the fact that he is 22-years-old and the idea of getting tied down scares that crap out of him. Bill wanted to know if he should break it off now or keep things the way they are.
In this day and age, 22-years-old is actually a very young age; if this was 20-50 years ago, that wouldn’t be that same case. Over the years, parents have stunted the growth of children and my generation is no exception. Psychologists have even come out and said that “26” is the new “21” because “26” is when you become autonomous and can do things on your own.
I’m happy to see that Bill has a good head on his shoulders and he will be successful in life if he has a good group of mentors to help guide him through life.
An adage that gets thrown around a lot is, “If it was meant to be it was meant to be,” which is one thing I really like about this new age stuff.
People regret what didn’t happen thinking things would have gone better or a certain way if they took a different path but the truth is we have no idea how it would have really happened.
For example, if someone still longs for “the love that got away,” if they did stay together, it doesn’t mean that things would have gone great. They could have gotten married and been miserable for the rest of their lives.
For better or worse, you can learn from the bad stuff, but I don’t believe there is such a thing as being in the wrong place and the wrong time. If Bill thinks he still has things to do before he decides to settle down, then he should do it and if she is there when he is ready, then “it was meant to be.”