BJ'S BLOG 06/25/14 "No Birthday Present"
Hello again, gang! It’s nice to know that you all turned up to celebrate another session of Group Therapy with us! Have some cake and punch, and you can put gifts on that table over there. You DID bring a gift, right?
A Rock-A-Holic named Linda was really hoping for a birthday gift from her boyfriend. They’ve only been dating a couple of months, and they recently celebrated her birthday a little early, because she’s heading out of town on a business trip for a few weeks.
The boyfriend went to dinner (by invitation) with Linda and her parents, with the folks picking up the whole check. Afterwards, the happy couple went to Linda’s place. Linda says she was sort of expecting him to surprise her with a gift…but he didn’t. The night ended with a goodbye (for a few weeks, remember) but that was all. She insists that she didn’t expect anything fancy or expensive, but she is a bit disappointed that he didn’t make some kind of effort. Even making a card would have been great, according to Linda.
Sigh. Making…a…card? Really, Linda? Crayons and glitter are more of a six-month anniversary thing, if I remember correctly.
Maybe he’s going to surprise her with a nice bunch of flowers or some other delivered item on her actual birthday, while she’s out of town. Whatever the case may be, I think this is definitely a case of overstimulated expectations. Remember, this wasn’t even the actual date of her birthday, and she’s already in a tailspin over this whole situation. Maybe it’s time to step back and chill out a little. If the birthday comes and goes without something happening, there might be more support for this reaction…but not yet.
Once again, I’m left shaking my head in confusion and dismay. How do you feel about this one, good people? Have you been on either side of this situation? Sound off!