Yesterday during Group Therapy we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Elizabeth.
Elizabeth’s fiancé is still friends on Facebook with the ex he dated right before her. He comments on her status, “likes” things she posts and vice versa.
He told Elizabeth that the reason he broke up with her was because he simply didn’t love her. Even though Elizabeth says she trusts him, she isn’t sure if she should ask him to “unfriend” her and cut off the friendship or just leave it be.
During the topic, we received a call from a Rock-A-Holic named Jacob who was going through a similar problem. Jacob is still friends with his ex’s on Facebook because he feels like it’s not a big deal, he’s not immature but his wife wasn’t happy about it.
Jacob’s wife deleted her own Facebook page and made a family one and went through Jacob’s Facebook and deleted every female friend for the exception of family.
Here’s what I think, there is nothing wrong with feeling anger about something. You have the right to feel however you want, even if you’re angry over something small and stupid. However, you have no right to invade someone’s privacy regardless of the emotions you are feeling.
The fact that Jacob’s wife went through his Facebook page shows she doesn’t trust him and that is the worst thing in a man’s eyes. It hurts a man more to hear that his spouse doesn’t trust him than to hear that his spouse doesn’t love him.
For both Jacob and his wife they need to find great mentors in their lives and possibly a couple’s therapist to sort some things out.
For Elizabeth, if you’re angry or uncomfortable, talk to your fiancé about it, don’t go snooping in his business and also think about getting a good support system like friends and therapy in your life so that you know how to handle things for your upcoming marriage.