BJ'S BLOG 07/10/12 "Half Brother"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read a text from a Rock-A-Holic named “Pat.”
“Pat” recently met her half brother who is friends with some of her friends but he has no idea they are siblings.
What happened was that their dad had an affair with “Pat’s” mom which ended when her mom got pregnant with her.
“Pat” met her father last year but he didn’t want to have a relationship with her and didn’t tell his family about her.
Even though that was the case, she has gotten to know her half brother through mutual friends and has gotten to see that he is a cool guy but isn’t sure if she should tell him that they are related.
Recently we’ve had a lot of Group Therapies about people wanting to find long lost relatives but this situation is a tough one. Normally I would say don’t go looking for a family that may not accept you and start drama but this is different.
It’s one thing if you are looking to dig up information, but in this case, it’s already there.
It just sucks that her birth father wants nothing to do with her and it’s probably because he doesn’t want everyone to know about his affair in the first place.
Whatever “Pat” decides to do in this case, she is not in the wrong. Who IS in the wrong is that father who was not responsible with his penis. If you go out and make babies with multiple women then leave, expect that anything can happen and that you will have to pay for it sooner or later.
“Pat’s” biological dad can’t blame anyone for what happens in this situation but himself. If “Pat” decides she wants a relationship with her brother and it makes everyone hate him for lying and cheating, that is all on him.