BJ'S BLOG 07/10/14 "Dumping a Friend Who Cheated On Their Spouse"
Group Therapy is back in session!
A Rock-A-Holic named Lenny wrote in recently, looking for some advice. He and his wife have been friends with a couple for 6 years, and the couple has been married for the last 3 years. Lenny and his wife were shocked when the couple announced that they would be getting a divorce, but that wasn’t the only surprising news…
The female half of the couple revealed to Lenny’s wife that the guy had been cheating on her, and she found out, so she’s calling it quits with him. Lenny’s wife thinks that they should also cut him out of their lives, but Lenny doesn’t quite agree.
Lenny was friends with the guy before he met his soon-to-be-ex, and while he doesn’t support the cheating, Lenny feels like the decision doesn’t affect them, so he thinks there’s no reason to cut the friend out.
Cheating sucks. It’s wrong, and you have to question the judgment of anyone who makes that kind of mistake in their life. Our man Top Shelf came clean (on the air!) about his own infidelity, and there were people who swore they’d never listen to the show again if we didn’t fire him! He had to wear the mark of his decision like a hot brand on his forehead for a long time, and he says that he feels like he may have to live with that stigma for a long time to come.
That’s the black-and-white fact of any situation like this, but I do believe that people make mistakes, and you can’t always judge a cheater as a terrible person all around. If they do it twice, or wrap their friends up in their deception, that’s another story…but a lapse in judgment can happen to anyone. It’s what the people do in the wake of their bad decision that will really prove who they are as a person.
What do you think, Rock-A-Holics? Bonus honesty points to any (hopefully reformed) cheaters out there who would like to tell us how their mistake affected their friendships…
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