BJ'S BLOG 07/11/13 "Unreasonable People"
Yesterday on the show, a Rock-A-Holic named Chris wrote in asking for some Group Therapy advice.
Chris is in his mid 30’s and a few months ago met a girl in her late 20’s online and they started dating. She seemed fine for the first month until she decided she needed to take a break from their relationship. They ended up getting back together a week later and things were once again fine for the next month and a half.
During the 4th of July week, her mother came to town to visit and she had mentioned to Chris that her mom was a raving lunatic who abused her as a teenager.
His plan was to take them out to dinner for the 4th of July and then out to a firework show. Things were going great until the check came and the mom offered to pay the tip. He hesitated but agreed to which his girlfriend gave him “the stare of death.”
Needless to say, when they got home, she was furious and he says there was no talking to her. She then ignored him for 5 days before finally deleting him off of Facebook.
He wanted to know if he really did something so abhorrent that he deserved to be treated this way.
I am so tired of men getting in trouble for stuff like this. The mother offered to pay a part of the meal and if she didn’t want to pay for it, why would she offer in the first place!
Chris is better off without this girl because she got mad over something that shouldn’t be a big deal then refused to talk about it like an adult. She couldn’t get passed the antiquated tradition where the man is supposed to pay for every single thing (which is ridiculous because are we not supposed to be equal in today’s society) and see that he was willing to entertain a woman she talked so badly about. When a man really likes a woman, more often than not, he will dislike the people who have hurt their girlfriend/wife.
The one key and simple concept that Chris and everyone need to keep in mind is there is no reasoning with unreasonable people so it’s best to just walk away.