Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read a text message we received at 77999 from a Rock-A-Holic named Chelsea.
Chelsea has been in a relationship for five months and just recently her boyfriend admitted to her that he also is attracted to men. She said in the text message that she loves him and knows he loves her but is afraid that he might be using her to cover “his gay life.”
The problem I had with this text message is the fact that she said she loves him and she’s only been with him for FIVE months! How can you really be in love with someone after that short of a time period? I can like someone a lot but it will take years before I truly love someone, five months is nothing!
The word “love” has been ruined in today’s society because it is used for everything. “I love you!” “I love them!” “I love lamp!” The word Chelsea should have used the word “committed,” because they are clearly monogamous but haven’t been together long enough to have the true feelings of love.
Another problem I had with this text is how Chelsea says that she knows he loves her but isn’t sure if he’s just using her to cover “his gay life.”
Here’s the deal, if you say that you know he loves you but aren’t sure if he’s just using you that means you really don’t trust him.
When someone cares about another person, they decide to put things aside for that person, and that could be what Chelsea’s boyfriend is doing.
Chelsea has proved that she still has a lot of growing up to do, and shouldn’t be using the word “love” yet until she learns what love really is.