BJ'S BLOG 07/18/12 "Marrying into Baggage"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Shawna who is having a problem involving her honeymoon.
Her fiancé has a daughter and a very flakey ex wife who only wants to take the kid when it’s convenient for her. The ex wife has told Shawna and her fiancé that she doesn’t want to take the child for two weeks so Shawna’s fiancé says he want to take his daughter with them on her honeymoon.
Shawna loves her future step daughter but doesn’t want to take her on her honey moon and isn’t sure how to tell her fiancé.
First off, the ex-wife sounds like a #BLD (bitches love drama). She is using her child to try to ruin someone else’s honeymoon, a time of romance and happiness because it sounds like she wants to make her ex and Shawna miserable.
We as men have been told from a young age how to treat women so it’s a little disheartening to see how women treat their “sisters.”
Second of all, Shawna, you are marrying a man who already has kids, what are you expecting?
I know this sounds harsh but Shawna’s fiancé brings a lot of baggage to the relationship so it’s hard for me to understand why Shawna is with him unless she also has baggage.
When you date someone with the baggage of a spiteful ex wife and children, you have to expect that these kinds of things will happen.