BJ'S BLOG 07/23/13 "Sex Spreadsheet"
As you probably know, Reddit is a very popular “fun” site to visit on the internet…but it can definitely backfire on you.
Recently, a woman posted something that her 26-year-old husband sent to her before he left town on a business trip. It was a spreadsheet of all the times she has turned him down for sex, and the reasons she gave for the rejections.
This chart didn’t exactly paint a picture of productive intimacy. From June 3rd to July 16th, they had sex just 3 times…but she turned him down 25 times. Yes, you read that correctly: 25 (twenty-five) times.
The wife offered up every stereotypical excuse, including these classics:
She has to wake up early
Watching a show (it was a rerun of “Friends”)
Just got home from gym, and feeling gross
Too drunk, and ate too much
She posted this spreadsheet on Reddit, for reasons that escape me. It seems she was trying to make her husband the bad guy, but this document went viral, and the whole thing sort of backfired on her.
Look, nobody should be forced to have sex if they don’t want to. That’s not even open for debate. However, I do have to wonder about a situation like this. When you’re in a committed relationship, monogamy is expected; on the other hand, we never talk about the expectation of sex within the marriage itself.
Prenuptial agreements aren’t very romantic, but how many relationships are damaged when the sex life falls into a rut, or vanishes almost completely? How can a couple reach an understanding about the needs and desires they’re bringing into a marriage?
Let’s hear it from you, good people. Bonus Honesty Points if you’d like to share your own spreadsheet numbers for the last month or two…