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BJ'S BLOG 07/24/14 "Can you re-wear a wedding Dress?"
by BJ Shea,posted Jul 24 2014 7:33AM
It’s Group Therapy time once again, Rock-A-Holics! Let’s walk down the aisle and see what we find, be it new or slightly used.
We’re trying to help Rachel today: she got divorced after 5 years, and plans to marry a new guy this fall. Like everyone in the world, she’s trying to save a little bit of money…and she wants to know if it’s okay to re-wear the wedding dress from her first wedding.
Rachel hasn’t said anything to her husband-to-be yet, but she has sought the advice of the people around her. She says her family believes the dress is jinxed, and they’re a little horrified by the idea. Likewise, some of her friends think that wearing the dress again is disrespectful to the new groom.
I’m handing this one off to the good people who read my blog. I have my own beliefs about second (and third, fourth, fifth) weddings, but I’ve only been married once. So, I don’t know if I really have much of a perspective here. I do find it curious that a groom traditionally rents a tuxedo that’s been used by countless men before him, but a wedding dress seems a little more sacred.
Give Rachel your best advice, folks! Maybe you can teach me something in the process…
BJ'S BLOG 07/24/14 "Can you re-wear a wedding dress?"
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Nor would I sleep in the same bed.
Get a new dress. Make it, borrow it, rent it.
Do not drag this "jinxed", contaminated, hurt piece of fabric to your new relationship. Don't move it into your new life.
Why in the world would this even be an option? Not that the dress is jinxed, it's just disrespectful....you care so little about your new marriage that you can't spend a couple hundred bucks so you don't have to wear a dress you picked outwith your ex in mind? Sell the thing and buy a new cheaper dress with the proceeds. You don't want your guests to get a sense of deja vous from having seen you in that dress before with a different man.
It's a dress you'll only wear one time. If you've already got one then why waste money on a new dress? They cost too much.
Or you could just not wear a wedding dress. When my wife and I got married we did an outdoor wedding. I wore a graysuit with a blue shirt open at the collar.
My wife wore a sun dress and looked beautiful.
The dress is just a piece of cloth. The promise you are making to each other is the important thing.
It's just a dress
I agree with "Who cares?" The dress is just a thing, especially if both the bride and new groom see it that way. However, if it bothers the new husband to be even a little, then the idea should be tossed out the window, along with the dress.
RE: Who cares?
I agree! Some people really want a "wedding" more than they want a "marriage". - VB