BJ'S BLOG 08/02/12 "Discipline plan"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Anita who didn’t know how to handle the way her husband disciplined their son.
The other day, their 5-year-old son hit another kid on the playground and her husband spanked him. It was the first time Anita saw her husband spank their son and she was horrified.
Her husband said it was the best way to teach kids what not to do; that is how he was raised. Anita was raised in a home where they used groundings and scoldings as punishment.
Before you even have kids, there should be a discussion about how you plan to raise, teach, and discipline so that conflicts like this don’t happen when it’s time to correct the child’s bad behavior. Having a parenting plan will keep things from being wishy-washy and the kids will know that when they do something wrong, both parents will be on the same page.
In my experience, I’ve learned that boys are generally the ones that benefit from corporal punishment because they need things to be more direct while girls need to be talked with.
Again, it's not a sweeping thing. As a parent you have look at your kids and figure out what kind of punishment will work best with their personalities.
I believe that corporal punishment has a place in society but I don’t condone abuse. I’ve never been one to think it’s ok to use “tools” like belts or paddles to discipline kids.