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BJ'S BLOG 08/13/14 "When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Get Married"

It’s time for some Group Therapy, folks! I hope you’re as committed to this as I am!
 
Today’s topic comes from Dawn, who knows her man wants to get married, even though he hasn’t specifically asked her yet. Dawn has no interest, but she hasn’t made it clear to her boyfriend. Her friends say she should tell him now, but it hasn’t come up, and she’s not sure when she should make her feelings clear. Dawn says she’s having fun, and she doesn’t want that fun to end yet!
 
People don’t have to get married, I suppose. Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn have been together forever, but they’ve never seen the need to make it official. They sure seem happy.
 
Personally, I’m a little bothered by Dawn’s position. I’m assuming that she just doesn’t want to marry THIS guy. Maybe I’m wrong, but it sure sounds that way to me. I believe in love, and I’ve made my relationship decisions based on the idea that people get together in the hopes that they’ll STAY together. I realize I’m occasionally the odd man out with this line of thinking, but there it is.
 
What do you think? Should Dawn tell her boyfriend that she doesn’t want to marry him, or wait until he pops the question? It seems to me that there might be less heartbreak for the guy if she’s upfront about it now, but we all know that I’m old-fashioned…
 


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08/13/2014 7:29AM
BJ'S BLOG 08/13/14 "When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Get Married"
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08/13/2014 8:21AM
She has to say something.
She has to says something even if it ends it. He is going to be moving forward thinking the big day is going to happen. If she waits until he proposes and then turns him down he might need some counseling! http://www.naturetonurturecounseling.com/
08/13/2014 11:36PM
she BETTER say something.
She should definitely say something about not wanting to be married. I'm only 22 but my boyfriend of two years has known since day one that I would like to get married some day in my life. She also is leading him on to thinking that one day they will get married. Tell him now!!!
08/14/2014 7:31AM
RE: she BETTER say something.
That's the best way to go, let him know from the start. - VB
08/14/2014 10:02AM
Similar situation ended in two broken hearts
I recently ended a long term relationship because my ex did not want to get married. We spent a long time trying to make the relationship work, hoping that we would see eye to eye on our future. In the end it doesn't matter how much you love each other, if you don't want the same thing the relationship will eventually have to end. Better to tell the guy now then several years down the road. If she just wants to have fun then he should be clued in to that.
08/14/2014 8:14PM
honesty is the best policy
Of course that should be obvious. Gotta love psychology though the fears we have and doubts that drive us. She may be scared to lose him if she tells him, and she very well may do so. However, at the same time her knowingly keeping it a secret? One that WILL impact his life, not just her own, is a huge breaker. If she doesnt want to be with him the rest of her life, marriage or otherwise, why the hell date in the first place? Dating is about committing to another person. Sharing yourself with them. If she doesnt want that and knows he does, shes holding him back from his dreams and needs. Not much of a relationship eh?( keep in mind, there are ALWAYS exceptions to every story. I dont know the couple.)
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