BJ'S BLOG 08/28/12 "Men Loving Drama"
Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read a text we received via 77999 from a Rock-A-holic named Cody.
He recently met this girl on Facebook and after hanging out and then fooling around with her, he’s decided he likes this girl. The only thing he doesn’t like is her boyfriend.
She said that they’ve been together for two years and they live with each other but they are bored of each other and act more like friends. She’s stuck living with this guy because she has nowhere else to go.
That’s what she says, but for all we know the boyfriend actually thinks they are in a committed, loving, and monogamous relationship and she’s the jerk cheating on him.
This woman is essentially living off the teat of another person while going out and sleeping with other people…what a lovely individual.
Cody wasn’t sure if he should 1. Stick around until she dumps the other, 2. Walk away, or 3. “Hit it and quit it.”
A Rock-A-Holic named Jacob called in saying that he should “hit it” and then tell the boyfriend what happened. This is really unsettling; the idea of creating drama has become more and more launched into a man’s consciousness. When did we become a gender that loves drama and who loves to start it?
I want no drama in my life and given the chance, I will get out of any situation that involves it.
What Cody needs to know is that even though he waits for her and puts up with the drama, it doesn’t mean that he will end up with this girl. One texter chimed in saying that he was in Cody’s shoes and decided to wait a year for a girl and she ended up getting engaged to the other guy.
This is what happened to young men; they have been raised to be more sensitive and give more thought to things that don’t need it.
This girl Cody is with sounds like a lazy person who doesn’t want to make her own way in life so she stays in a loveless, miserable relationship while complaining about her boyfriend. The only thing Cody is to her is excitement to keep her medicated from her own pain, so the best thing he could do is leave this whole situation and not look back.