Yesterday during Group Therapy, I read an email from a Rock-A-Holic named Glen who was having an issue with his future son-in-law.
On Monday he was out celebrating a recent promotion with some coworkers at a strip club. Things were going well then after an hour and half of being there, he noticed his daughter’s fiancé at the strip club…alone! On top of that, he got three lap dances in a row while there!
He says he isn’t a prude and thinks strips clubs are fine for bachelor parties, birthdays, or even promotions (which was why he was there in the first place) but he thinks it’s odd that a guy would go by himself on a Monday afternoon. This hasn’t settled well with Glen and is wondering if he should talk to his daughter or his future son-in-law about it since they will be walking down the aisle in six weeks.
If I was in Glen’s place, I wouldn’t have an issue with him being there but I may be concerned about the financial ramifications. How often does he go to the strip clubs? Also, if he gets frequent lap dances that can really put a dent in their budget.
Also, the other thing he has to think about is how is this going to affect his daughter if he tells her because not only will he be telling her he saw her boyfriend receiving lap dances but she will now know her dad was at a strip club as well. Does she really need to know all this?
Glen can pull this guy aside and as long as nothing inappropriate is happening or he’s not spending money he doesn’t have on this, it shouldn’t be a problem.
Now this is quite the pickle. I'd say you're right, but it sounds to me like Glen would be hard pressed to get truthful information out of this guy.
Good thing I dont have a Daughter
Id get my girl some hooker shoes, a pole and some anal bleaching so she can compete with those Ho's. My girl is just as good as they are.
coming to terms
Tough for the dad but not though for many dads. I'd let my daughter know. I'd discuss with her as many angles as we could think of. I'd tell her my concerns. And then I'd support he in however she chose to proceed. To the future son in law. If my daughter chose to still get married, I'd probably digress to my stupider years and have him thrown in a trunk. Bounced around town including through many bumpy alleyways. They'd suddenly let him out and add he walked out of the alleyway I'd be standing there waiting to give him a ride home. In this ride I would reinforce my commitment to my daughter.
I want to know what my friend BJ would say if he saw his daughters fiancee there ...
Well, that does deserve a talk
The first thing this guy needs to know is that it may very well be that the daughter knows fiancé is at the strip club. He has no real knowledge of what bounderies their relationship has. That said, he should talk to the fiancé and say 'hey, I was at a party and I saw you there alone burning through lap dances. I love my daughter and I want to make sure that you guys are discussing this before you are married. Finding out down the road will not be good. Also, I hope you are being upfront with her regarding the money you are blowing. But if you think lap dances are expensive, divorce lawyers and child support is even worse. Talk to her before you get married or I will." And leave it at that. And be prepared to get a revelation that you might not like, such as, 'oh daddy, this is our version of foreplay.'