BJ'S BLOG 09/07/12 "Cold Feet"
Yesterday on the show, we shared an interesting statistic that was just found out by UCLA.
They found that 67% of couples had at least one person who had cold feet at their wedding, and those couples were more likely to divorce.
The whole idea of planning a wedding and getting married has become such a big machine that people don’t want to take the time to discuss these feelings.
The pressure of backing out of it whether it’s the financial aspect or not wanting to look bad in front of all these people sometimes pushes people to go through something they might not really want.
Americans are so sick because we take the most basic things and complicate them to the point where we ruin our own lives. Someone could really like their partner but once it sets in that you’re going to be with them for the rest of your life, especially if you’re a guy and you’ve never thought about it, then it should be looked at! People don’t think about the financial and emotional implications of what could happen if they go through with the wedding and end up breaking up anyways!
What people need to understand is the monogamy isn’t normal; biologists and sociologist have done studies to prove that this is true. If guys are going against the natural grain on this by only being with one person for the rest of their lives, then they need to make sure that person is amazing because a long marriage is going to be very difficult even with that amazing person.
For women on the other hand, it is socially acceptable to be emotional cheaters. They can go into work and flirt and have an “office spouse.” Even if they never do anything physical, they are still getting the satisfaction they want while men, who get their satisfaction through sex, can’t just go out and have an physical affair on their wives.
That’s why it’s really important to both men and women not to get suckered into the big wedding machine; if you’re getting cold feet and are not sure if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, then address those feelings, don’t just go through with a marriage…you’ll pay dearly in the end.