BJ'S BLOG 09/07/12 "Compliments or Marriage?"
Last week on the show, we read a message from a Rock-A-Holic named Jennifer that talks about how her husband is extremely jealous.
She starts off by saying that she has to talk to the people at work whether she likes to or not. One guy from her work “friended” her on Facebook but then started sending her sexual messages on the Facebook Messenger. He is also married and Jennifer just ignores them but still talks to him at work. In the messages, he talks about how he wants to have a spouse swap with them and when Jennifer’s husband saw the messages he freaked out.
He said that by letting anyone talk to her like that is disrespecting him as her husband.
Then Jennifer says something in her message that really gets down to the root of things. She says that she likes to hear compliments because she used to be overweight.
First off, that coworker is a jerk. What kind of dishonorable person, who is married, makes a move on another married person?
Secondly, Jennifer needs to understand that by not putting a stop to this co-worker’s inappropriate behavior because she likes the compliments is emotional cheating. Her husband is not being overly jealous; he is reacting accordingly to having his wife emotionally cheat on him. If her husband would have had sex with another woman, Jennifer would have lost her mind. A man physically cheating is the same as a woman emotionally cheating.
So the thing Jennifer has to decide is if she wants compliments more than she wants her marriage.