BJ'S BLOG 09/14/12 "Ratting Yourself Out"
Earlier this week we read a message from a Rock-A-Holic named “Jack” who was looking for some Group Therapy.
Jack had made a sex tape with his ex before he got together with his now fiancé. Now he is wondering if he should tell his fiancé before they get married just in case she finds out through a different source like the ex girlfriend who still has a copy of the tape. His only concern is if he tells his fiancé that she would freak out and never let it go.
The best advice I can give Jack and all men who are debating on telling their woman something like this from their past is to not tell them a thing.
What you did before you met your woman when it comes to intimate relationships is none of her business and the same goes for you. No one has the right to ask for that kind of information and if they do demand it, it’s extremely inappropriate and no one has to put up with that.
It’s not acceptable to go up to your partner and ask them to tell you what their solo activity is like, so why is this ok?
Trust me, if Jack decides to tell his fiancé that he has a sex tape out there, he will regret it because it will most likely be thrown against him every time they have an argument.
I don’t think Jack’s predicament is a #BLD situation, I just think that guys are pressured to be honest in relationships but he’s done nothing wrong! It’s in the past, and no one has the right to know about it except Jack himself.
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