BJ'S BLOG 09/19/13 "My Sister Is Posing For A Porn Site!"
There’s never a dull moment in Group Therapy!
A faithful Rock-A-Holic named Reed texted us at 77999, looking for some family advice. Reed’s 21-year-old sister has been posing for an adult website, and big brother just isn’t sure how to handle it.
I think it’s safe to say that most people would never want to see a platonic friend or co-worker in their most intimate moments. When you take it into the realm of family, the discomfort and embarrassment can get notched up considerably, especially when it’s close family.
As a parent, I’ve always tried to prepare myself for as many tough surprises as possible. You never know what’s going to happen in your life, especially as your kids start to reach a point of independence for themselves. I went so far as to prepare myself for the possibility of a more “adult” career path for my daughter, just in case it came up…
…but when I was asked which would be worse for my child to reveal -- a porn career or shoplifting -- I found myself struggling to decide. Which would be more upsetting to me as a parent? My reasoning had always been based on the theory that I could handle anything that didn’t cross the line of legality. Where does that stance come from? Is it the perception that an illegal act is simply less acceptable in society than a conscious career choice in a legal field that is divided by opinions more than anything else?
You want your family and friends to be happy, don’t you? If they’re happy, healthy, and safe, isn’t that all that matters? Reed’s question is a tough one, and there simply isn’t an answer that applies to anyone but you. We all have to decide what we’re comfortable with in our lives, and respect the fact that the people we love are allowed to make their own decisions.
If that doesn’t comfort you, then perhaps taking a patriotic stance will help you find your way to some inner peace:
This is America, and our forefathers fought long and hard so that young women could have the right to be naked on the internet, while their stressed-out older brothers seek help from complete amateur psychologists in Group Therapy.
God Bless America.