BJ'S BLOG 09/21/12 "Paying Half"
A Rock-A-holic named Toni (who’s a woman in her mid twenties) wrote in because she wasn’t sure if she should go out on a second date with a guy after what he did.
When they were on their date, they had a great time, didn’t have any awkward moments, and enjoyed each other’s company. When it came time to pay the bill, the guy asked if they could split it which they did. Toni was convinced this meant that the guy didn’t like her but he called asking her out on a second date.
She wasn’t sure if this is how it’s done “these days” or if splitting the check meant he was a cheapskate or if he is just a frugal person because the economy is so bad.
Her girlfriends told her she would be crazy to go out with this guy again.
If you want to know why it’s more common to be splitting the bill, just look to the women from prior generations. Men are really good at taking a task, hyper focusing on it, and getting it done. That’s what happened when protests about gender equality happened. Some women no longer wanted the door to be held for them; they wanted to bring home the bacon and cook it too.
When I was growing up, we never in our wildest dreams would have thought it was ok to let the woman pay for anything.
They fought to not be discriminated against because of their gender so I don’t know why a woman would get offended when asked to pay for her half. That’s true equality.
If people want true equality then that’s fine, they should just expect to pay for half of the bill because that is the fair thing to do, regardless of gender.