BJ'S BLOG 09/27/12 "Biology VS Love "
Rock-A-Holic Kendra has been dating and sleeping with a guy for two months. A few days ago he told her that he’s not sure if he sees a future with her.
The reason she emailed me is because she isn’t sure if she should keep sleeping with him in hopes that he may change his mind or just move on.
I believe Kendra has been failed by the women in her life whether it’s her aunts, mom, grandmas or what have you. I have the guts to say this: the women who are in authority today as in the women in their 40’s and above are doing horrible job mentoring younger women about relationships.
It’s 2012; can we take a look at biology and how it affects the way people feel instead of depending on “romance” and “love.”
Young women today are confused because they are told how they should behave and how relationships should work but their biology is telling them something different.
We need to stop romanticizing marriage because news flash, it’s not romantic and the longer a marriage goes, the less “romantic” it is.
My advice for Kendra and women who are in her situation is that it’s only been two months; it takes men much longer to develop feelings of love towards someone.
If she really likes him, she should just give it some time, enjoy his company and see where it goes from there.