BJ'S BLOG 10/30/12 "Pretty Distractions"
Glen is a Rock-A-Holic who texted us about a problem he’s having that just about every man goes through.
He prefaces his text by saying that he loves his wife more than anything in the world, but over the past few months, he’s been attracted to her best friend.
He has a difficult time not staring at her when she is around and has even thought about her while having relations with his wife.
Glen says he doesn’t want to cheat on his wife and has no intention of making a move on this woman but wants to know if other guys have these types of thoughts and what he should do. He even asked if he should mention anything to his wife about it.
First off, I see no scenario where telling his wife could be a good thing. What you fantasize about is no one’s business but your own.
A fellow Rock-A-Holic named Brian called in and pointed out that successful men manage their spouse, manage their work, and manage their sex drive and the fact that one of those is out of whack means he needs to give himself sometime to get it back on track.
That’s an interesting thing because I know for me, when things are not going well in my life and when I’m stressed out, that’s when it’s harder to move away from thoughts like Glen is having. It’s harder to dismiss thoughts of an attractive woman and that’s when a man has to realize that there is something in his life that is not in order. There is nothing wrong with looking at a woman and thinking she’s hot but if you’re in good shape mentally, that’s when you can tell yourself that you don’t need to mess up your life for this over a “pretty distraction.”