Yesterday during Group Therapy, we read an email that a listener named Andy sent us regarding what his kids wanted to wear on Halloween.
Andy has 5-year-old twins; one is a boy and one is a girl, and the boy Hank picked out a pirate costume and the daughter picked out a Strawberry Shortcake costume. Everything was going fine until the kids decided that they wanted each other’s costumes instead; so Hank wanted to be Strawberry Shortcake and Stephanie wanted to be a pirate.
What Andy’s problem was that he didn’t want his son wearing a dress as he went trick or treating to the homes of all of his neighbors but his wife said she didn’t see what the big deal was.
I am not surprised that Andy fought with his wife about this because most women would find it “cute” if their little boy wanted to dress up as a woman, but in a situation like this, it should be a man telling his son what are the repercussions of his actions.
This is the thing that women need to understand about men, and I’ve said this before; over the last 30 years, due to the feminist movement, men were given the task of understanding women and we have done a great job. Unfortunately ladies, you haven’t given a crap about us men because you’ve been too busy asking us to understand you.
Men do not like to dress up like girls on a deep rooted, philosophical core level because it is not something we are really proud of. Women can dress up as anything and they will never get ostracized if they decide they wanted to dress like a man because women are the “dress up” gender.
A woman’s femininity will never be questioned like a man’s masculinity and that needs to be taken into account in a situation like this.
That boy will potentially be the target of ridicule and torment from other kids and I believe his father Andy is just trying to protect his boy from a pain women don’t get to experience.
Sometimes, the boy’s father simply knows best.