BJ'S BLOG 11/14/12 "Your Kid Comes First!"
BJ’s Blog 11-14-12 Your Kid Comes First!
Yesterday we helped out a Rock-A-Holic named Daylen who was upset with his mother.
His parents are currently going through a divorce but he suspects that his mom is already seeing someone else. The reason he thinks this is going on is because his mom was really persistent about his dad moving out quickly, she is buying a lot of expensive things, and she is going out a lot.
Daylen is really ticked off that his mom is doing this and doesn’t know what to do.
What we don’t know is how old Daylen is, and judging by his message, it makes me think that he is underage and living with his mom.
I know I’ve said this before but this is something everyone who is going through a divorce and has kids needs to hear. Parents can be so selfish when it comes what divorce does to their kids. It’s not enough that the parents are getting out of a bad relationship; they also feel like they should immediately find someone to replace their partner!
When it comes to a new relationship, even if it’s casually dating after a just getting divorced, being overt about it is not ok; the kids come first! After both adults and children have had time to heal, then it’s ok to go back into the dating world but they still have to keep it away from the kids.
Pardon me if I put kids first; no one thinks about the trauma and impact that divorce does to children. They should always be the number one priority, not buying expensive things to get new guys too look at you.